Sometimes I have wondered what it is like to be a deaf parent of a hearing child. I never had a hearing child, and I know that most deaf parents have hearing children.
Challenges for Deaf Parents with Hearing Children
Deaf parents with hearing children face unique challenges, such as finding day care programs or babysitters that can communicate with both them and their child. Other challenges stem from behaviors that result from parents not being able to hear. For instance, a day care provider who was caring for a hearing child of deaf parents noticed that the child tended to scream or yell. She wrote in asking if it was common for hearing children of deaf parents yell much
Another problem for deaf parents of hearing children, is that the children may try to take advantage of the fact their parents can't hear. This problem cropped up in the blog post, "Deaf Parents with Unruly Hearing Children." In that post, a teacher commented that her students who had deaf parents were misbehaving and taking advantage of their parents' deafness. About.com readers pointed out that the children may have been reacting to the realities of their home life with deaf parents.
Some parenting challenges were addressed by an episode of TV's Supernanny, in which the nanny visited a family of deaf parents with hearing children. In Season 5, the "Baulisch family" episode that aired 10/10/08, the nanny confronts poor communication in the family because the younger hearing children did not sign much. Jo, the nanny, explained that it was the parents' responsibility to ensure adequate sign communication and not depend on their older child to act as an interpreter.
Organizations for Deaf Parents
There is a network of parent organizations for deaf parents of hearing children. For example, there are Kids of Deaf Adult organizations in:
Such groups provide social activities for hearing children of deaf parents, as well as providing peer support for the deaf parents. In addition, in June 2010 there was a National Kids of Deaf Adults Family Conference
Discussion Forums for Deaf Parents
Deaf parents can take advantage of the About.com Deafness forum
as a source of help. Other discussion forums include the Yahoo group deaf_parents
Books for Deaf Parents and Their Hearing Children
Deaf parents and their hearing children can share books such as Myron Uhlberg's books Dad, Jackie and Me
(about a hearing boy and his deaf father), and The Printer
. For deaf parents themselves, Thomas Bull, a hearing child of deaf parents, is the author of On the Edge of Deaf Culture: Hearing Children/Deaf Parents, Annotated Bibliography
Magazine Articles on Deaf Parents of Hearing Children
The Fall 1990 issue of Gallaudet Today
magazine had an article, "The ties that bind: Hearing children and deaf parents talk about being a family." A decade later, the Fall 2000 issue of Gallaudet Today
magazine had another article, "The CODA connection: Do your parents know Braille?"
Journal Articles on Deaf Parents of Hearing Children
Some research on deaf parents with hearing children - particularly with regard to language development - has been done. The American Annals of the Deaf
often publishes studies of deaf parents raising hearing children. Another journal, the Journal of Deaf Studies and Deaf Education
, also publishes similar articles, such as the Summer 2000 issue article, "Deaf parents and their hearing children." That article, which is downloadable free
, discusses communication and parenting issues, the experiences of hearing children raised by deaf parents, and useful suggestions for deaf parents raising hearing children. One suggestion is to encourage the hearing child to have both deaf and hearing playmates, with the idea that the hearing playmates will help the child's speech skills.
Honoring Deaf Parents of Hearing Children
There is even a day in the deaf community set aside to honor the deaf parents of hearing children - Mother, Father Deaf Day