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Voice Accidentally Too Loud

By September 15, 2011

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HOH1988 posted on the forum that he/she is a teacher and hard of hearing. One day when HOH1988 went to work, his/her voice became too loud and a parent became upset with HOH1988. Even wearing hearing aids, HOH1988 does not know how loudly his/her voice is. HOH1988 wants to hear from others who have been in similar situations. Share your "voice too loud" stories on the forum with HOH1988.

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September 17, 2011 at 2:26 am
(1) LearningASL says:

I’m glad there are forums like this so that we can ask about such things and realize that we are not as alone as we may feel. I lost more hearing about 10 years ago due to progressive hearing loss; it was more of a dramatic loss than previously. I recognize that I can no longer hear myself talk the way I used to and that affects how loud or soft I speak. It’s very hard for me to gauge how I sound. Sometimes, people ask me, why I am I talking so loud or why am I whispering! It’s harder to tell when I don’t have my hearing aids on, but when I have them on, I’m asked the same questions from time to time.

Recently, I had a discussion about this with 2 other hard of hearing people. We are all told that we talk too loud (or too low) when we don’t realize it.

It can also depend on the hearing of the other person you are talking to; even hearing people don’t hear everything perfectly or the same.

I try to adjust it accordingly if I’m made aware of it. When I do public speaking, my audience is informed that I’m deaf (either by the person who introduces me or I announce it myself). I ask the audience to let me know (via gestures) if I’m too loud or too soft. Even at the mike I can’t tell how I sound.

I also feel so misunderstood many times, especially when someone accuses me of being angry and loud (even if I’m not upset, not arguing and not mad). Even I know the difference between someone arguing loudly or someone who just talks loud.

Luckily, there are people who respectfully and gently inform me when necessary; I thank God for considerate people like them.

However, some people are hurtful; they know that it’s not anything we do on purpose. Those are the people with attitudes against the hard of hoh and deaf. I’d rather be deaf/hard of hearing and accidentally talk too loud or too soft than be a mean person like that.

Yet, some others don’t know and they usually try to understand.

September 20, 2011 at 10:38 pm
(2) Donna says:

I was wearing hearing aid and talk very loud. People tell me be quiet. My hearing ex-boyfriend hit me because I talked too loud. I feel bad. I give up my hearing aid. I refuse to talk and write a note all the time and sign language all the time because If I talk too loud then people will abuse me for talk too loud. I am very sad. NO MORE talk. Period!

September 21, 2011 at 10:58 am
(3) Grannie_4_7 says:

I also am not able to judge how loud or how softly I’m speaking. I was unaware of that until this past summer when my young grandchildren were here and one of the 7 year olds asked me why I was yelling at them all of the time. They thought I was angry with them. It was a wonderful opportunity for me to talk to them about being hard of hearing in one ear and deaf in the other.

I wish someone would invent a small “sound meter” that we could wear as a zipper pull, or bangle on a bracelet or necklace, etc., that we could easily access to check our volume. That would be really helpful for me.

September 21, 2011 at 11:50 am
(4) KARENELOISE says:

I have never ever known how loud my voice was. My solution is to have a friend or collegue that will catch my eye and use their had palm out to make a “down” gesture. This lets me know I am talking too loud. I have been told I talk louder when I am not wearing aids than when I am wearing them. I try to make a habit of pitching my voice very low all the time, better to be asked to speak up then to blare out. Goes with the territory. I am life long HOH and now am profoundly deaf.

September 21, 2011 at 9:10 pm
(5) Karie says:

My husband tells me a lot that I am talking to loud. I never realize it until he tells me. I can’t tell if I am, and it doesn’t matter if I have my “ears” (hearing aids) in or not. So, I tend to just make sure that people that I am with or around KNOW that I am hard of hearing and that I don’t realize if I am talking to loud or if I don’t hear them. I want them to know that I am not ignoring them.

I also have a blind friend that I often think is yelling at me or mad at me. I have to remind myself that she was not able to see facial expressions when she was growing up. She often has what looks to me to be an angry face. She talks louder for me, but with her expressions and her trying to enunciate each word perfectly, it comes across to me as her being angry with me. It’s a good thing that we are good friends!

Karie

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